Sponsored: Whether you’re already planning to adopt or only see it as an option somewhere in the future, chances are you’ve found yourself confronted with a lot of stories already.

Most of the time, they won’t be good – everyone seems to have a friend who has a friend who adopted, and it didn’t end well.

In reality, adoption is far from the frequently told horror stories, and it usually ends with happy children in a loving, new family welcoming them with open arms.

To help you get a better view on what it’s really like to offer your home – and your heart – to a child, we’ve teamed up with Action for Children to dispel seven common adoption myths.

1. Same-sex couples are still treated differently

While that may be the opinion of some small-minded people in society, Action for Children treat everyone the same, no matter if they’re straight or no.

There’s no reason why LGBTIs wouldn’t make good parents – and in the end, offering a loving family counts far more than the number of mums or dads in the household.

2. Only rich people can adopt

That’s not true at all. While you need to be financially stable to be considered as an adoptive parent, you don’t need six-figure sums on your bank account.

In fact, you don’t even need to be in full-time employment. As long as you plan realistically, and your finances are stable, there is no way why you should rule yourself out.

3. One strike on your criminal record and you’re out

No and yes at the same time, to this one. When you enter the process, Action for Children will look at your criminal record just as much as they look at your past and present lifestyle.

Something like a shoplifting conviction is by no means the end of your chance to adopt.

If there are charges against other people, though, especially children or younger people, you won’t be able to adopt.

4. Singles can’t adopt

Once again, that’s simply not true.

You can definitely adopt a child, even if you’re not in a long-term relationship.

Just like some children’s parents split, others may find themselves with only one adoptive parent from the start – and still live in a loving, supportive home.

5. I’m too old / young to adopt

There is no real age limit on adoption.

British law requires you to be 21 or older, to ensure you’re mature enough to care for a child, but that’s the only restriction purely based on a number.

Everything else depends on your general health and vitality, as well as the age of the child you want to adopt. After all, you need to be able to care for them until they reach independence.

As such, younger children are generally more likely to be placed with younger parents.

6. There’s no way you can adopt if you’re disabled

While you need to be healthy to care for your child, being disabled doesn’t automatically rule you out as an adoptive parent.

It will be taken into consideration, yes, but so will other health risks (like, for example, smoking).

Not to mention there might be someone who could greatly benefit from having exactly you as a parent – for example, a deaf or hard of hearing child growing up with one (or both!) parents in the same situation.

7. Once the child is placed, that’s it

This seems to be a big fear for many possible adoptive parents, but it’s one easily dispelled.

There’s no denying that sometimes, adopting a child can be hard. The kids may have been abused or neglected and need some time, and a lot of love, to fully settle in. They can be angry, or confused, and maye even scare by what’s happening.

Love and kindness (and, yes, a lot of determination at times) are an important pillar in making an adoption work. But so is help from your agency.

To make sure everyone is happy with the result, Action for Children provide assistance long after your child has moved in.

Apart from checking in through regular visits, they also provide more training, help you keep in touch with other adopters and, if need be, offer guidance on financial matters.


This article was originally published on Gay Star News. Read the original article.