These books have been discussed and chosen by members of the asexual community. The characters either are said to be asexual, or by their behavior anddescription have been deemed asexual.

A History of Celibacy: From Athena to Elizabeth I, Leonardo Da Vinci, Florence Nightingale, Gandhi and Cher – Elizabeth Abbott

“A look at celibacy traces the history of the phenomenon through the ages, from ancient times to the present day, and profiles many avowed celibates, including Joan of Arc and Sir Isaac Newton.”

Note: Asexuality is not outwardly mentioned but is applied.

The Amazing Book of Useless Information: More Things You Didn’t Need to Know But are About to Find out – Noel Botham

“Mentiones research done by Anthony Bogaert on page 55”

Asexuality is Not Celibacy- It’s a Sexual Orientation that Must Be Respected and Explored – Heather Leah

“So in this evolving world of understanding and compassion for individuals of all sexual preference, I would like to inform you all about another kind of sexual orientation: None at all”

Beyond Friendship and Eros: Unrecognized Relationships Between Men and Women – John R. Scudder

“Explores deep intimate personal relationships between men and women.”

Boston Marriages: Romantic But Asexual Relationships Among Contemporary Lesbians – Esther D. Rothblum & Kathleen A. Brehony

“This collection of theoretical essays and personal stories is not just about “Boston marriages,” a term referring to two women in a nonsexual but nonetheless deeply committed relationship. As the book so well concludes, there is no language for this type of relationship, not just for lesbians but for anyone–gay, straight, male, or female–who relates to others outside the traditional roles of friend, lover, spouse, or relative. Living in a society that invalidates a love that has not been sexually validated, the women subjects of this book speak passionately about relationships they have kept hidden even from their own lesbian community; the essays by well-known writers in the area of lesbian studies pale in comparison. This book’s apparently specific nature should not deter academics and others interested in the study of human relationships. For academic libraries and women’s studies collections.” (SA)

Children of the Revolution (article in Harper Magazine) (also published as Afternoon of the Sex Children in n+1 Magazine) – Mark Greif

“Sexual liberation was a good and necessary thing, he [Greif] says. But, fuelled by commercialism, it developed a downside: it led to a culture of the simplistic promotion of sex, as a badge of being a liberated modern. A true test of liberation, he says, ‘must be whether you have also been freed to be free from sex, too – to ignore it, or to be asexual, without consequent social opprobrium or imputation of deficiency. If truly liberated, you should engage in sex, or not, as you please, and have it be a matter of indifference to you; you should recognize your own sex, or not, whenever and however you please.’ Instead, our culture of liberalisation has led to a ‘cruel betrayal’ – ‘the illusion that a person can be free only if he holds sex as all-important and exposes it endlessly to others – providing it, proving it, enjoying it.’”

(description from this article)

Demystifying Love: Plain Talk for the Mental Health Professional – Stephen B. Levine

“Intended primarily for mental health professionals, Demystifying Love deals plainly with topics rarely written about for clinicians. The book discusses in a small package highly readable and useful topics, such as love (as both noun and verb), psychological intimacy, sexual desire, as well as infidelity, both in background concepts and clinical guidelines.”

The End of Gender: A Psychological Autopsy – Shari L. Thurer

“Gender isn’t what it used to be. Categories are collapsing. What was deviant for baby boomers has become mainstream for their offspring: like the coed who realizes she’s bisexual but, after a period of adjustment, shrugs her shoulders and gets on with her otherwise mundane life. Gender as we once understood it is over, and gender-bending is the new beat. Men sport ponytails and earrings and teach nursery school; women flaunt tatoos and biceps and smoke cigars.In The End of Gender, Shari L. Thurer argues that we are in the midst of a new sexual revolution. It is one where gender categories are blurring not just at the “fringes” of society, but in mainstream lifestyle, media, fashion, and art. So, why is this cultural phenomenon happening now? And what does it mean? In lively, non-technical language, and with sometimes surprising case studies from her 25 years as a psychologist, Thurer answers these questions, bridging complex postmodern theory with cutting edge psychoanalysis.”

Note: The author talks about a female asexual client on page 188-189.

The Four Loves – C.S. Lewis

“We hear often that love is patient and kind, not envious or prideful. We hear that human love is a reflection of divine love. We hear that God is love. But how do we understand its work in our lives, its perils and rewards? Here, the incomparable C. S. Lewis examines human love in four forms: affection, the most basic, general, and emotive; friendship, the most rare, least jealous, and, in being freely chosen, perhaps the most profound; Eros, passionate love that can run counter to happiness and poses real danger; charity, the greatest, most spiritual, and least selfish. Proper love is a risk, but to bar oneself from it–to deny love–is a damning choice. Love is a need and a gift; love brings joy and laughter. We must seek to be awakened and so to find an Appreciative love through which “all things are possible”

The Invisible Orientation – Julie Sondra Decker

“In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people’s experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.”

L’amour sans le faire: L’asexualité ou la réalité de ceux qui n’ont pas de libido – Geraldine Levi Rich Jones

“Be devoid of libido does not mean do not know how to love. This means not having sex drive. It is a fact, a genetic predisposition. Not a mental block or consequence of abuse, a disappointment or trauma.”

Note: This book is in French

Masculine Scenarios (Psychoanalysis and Women Series) – Mariam Alizade

“Human identity, sexual identity, primary and secondary identification, object choice, narcissism – all of these lie on a continuum with homosexuality, transsexualism, transvestism, heterosexuality and asexuality. Concepts on sexuality and gender are outlined anew in an interplay of theoretical and clinical networks, with the aim of increasing the efficiency of analytic praxis freed from prejudice and monolithic convention.”

My Life in Hetero: An Ace in the Closet – C. Kellam Scott

“I wrote this book for many reasons, the most important being that there were no memoirs by openly asexual people. I spent my life believing that the only way was the way of the sexual world. Doing so cut a destructive swath across my life that led me into the degradation of addiction. After trying and failing to live as a sexual person I found true peace in accepting who I am. I am aromantic and asexual and there is nothing that can change that. This book details my efforts to come to terms with myself. It shows the joy I put into my life and covers the ugliness I put myself through. In the end I just wanted to show the world that we aces are out there, we are real and what we feel does matter.”

Perfectly Normal: Living and Loving with Low Libido – Sandra Pertot

“Challenging assumptions about sex in our society, a noted sex therapist shows women how to start living and loving with genuine pleasure regardless of where they fall on the libido meter. How strong does a woman’s sex drive have to be to be considered “normal”? Are widespread myths about frequent, lusty lovemaking ruining couples’ sex lives? At various points in their lives, one in every three women rate themselves as lacking any interest in sex. Challenging unrealistic expectations that are leaving many couples disappointed and dissatisfied with their intimate lives, psychologist Sandra Pertot, Ph.D., in Perfectly Normal, reassures women who fear that their diminished desire is proof that there is something terribly wrong with them or with their relationship.”

The Sex-Starved Wife – Michele Weiner Davis

“The Sex-Starved Wife gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You’ll even learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. If you and your spouse need additional support, Weiner Davis offers concrete advice on how to get your man to visit his doctor or seek other professional help.”

Somebody Somewhere: Breaking Free from the World of Autism – Donna Williams

“In the acclaimed sequel to Nobody Nowhere–in which Donna Williams gives readers a guided tour of life with autism–Williams explores the four years since her diagnosis and her attempts to leave her “world under glass” and live normally. NPR sponsorship.”

(biography, describes her asexuality towards the end)
Surpassing the Love of Men: Romantic Friendship and Love Between Women from the Renaissance to the Present – Lillian Faderman

“A classic of its kind, this fascinating cultural history draws on everything from private correspondence to pornography to explore five hundred years of friendship and love between women. Surpassing the Love of Men throws a new light on shifting theories of female sexuality and the changing status of women over the centuries.”

Note: focuses on romantic, non-sexual relationships between women

The World’s Best Sex Writing 2005 – Mitzi Szereto

“Here is the year’s best nonfiction writing on sex, for the first time expanded to include contributions from overseas. It includes an interview with Harry Reems of Deep Throat fame, essays on the growth of asexuality, the XXXChurch, “sexperts” and their lack of qualifications, sex in Japan, and alternative sexual practices. Publications featured include Wired,, Village Voice, the Spectator, the Guardian (London), the Sunday Times(London), the Erotic Review (London), and more.”

(Source – AVEN)